Just this past weekend, I went to a Sweat Lodge close to my
community. Each time I go to a Lodge, I
know I’m going to walk away with a gem of wisdom or transformation that will
carry me for a long time. This one was
no different.
I learned more about the
traditions of the stones coming in – known as Grandmothers and
Grandfathers. By being willing to join
us at the Sweat, these stones are offering their long kept wisdom and knowledge
that have been stored within them for hundreds of years. By heating and awakening them, they provide
us with the energy and guidance to grow as people. I
asked the Sweat Lodge Facilitator how to tell the difference between a
Grandmother and a Grandfather stone. She
said that the stones that break are Grandmothers because they are opening up
their hearts. What a gift! I was
reminded that the traditional role of the masculine is to create safety and
protection so that the feminine heart can open and bless the world.
She also affirmed something for me that I have felt for a
long time. That women who do not have children by middle age are destined for Spiritual
Warriorship – that we have come into this lifetime to fulfill our purpose in a
different way. This gave me great
meaning and truth of my journey so far of being misunderstood or pressured by
others to have children when my soul knew that this was not what I was meant to
do. I was here to bring in something entirely different into the world. Hence,
Blossoming Heart Intuitive Arts.
At this ceremony there was a theme coming up about tyrants
and perfectionists. I asked the
Facilitator why it is that I seem to attract tyrants in my life, explaining
that I have a tongue-in-cheek joke that if Hitler were alive, he’d end up
falling in love with me. No kidding! I’ve
attracted the most intense male energies that have made me feel anything but
safe. The facilitator said that there is
something within me that is attracting this because I am too hard on myself. Which, when I looked at how I danced with the
tyrant, in ways where I would unconsciously allow them to be dominating and
overpowering and send me into self-doubt, she was totally right.
The issue of the perfectionist also came up in the lodge
with a woman who had a hard time extending kindness towards herself even though
she could extend it to others. Sound
familiar to anyone? The inner critic
that doesn’t allow us to make mistakes, is on-guard 24/7, and tells us we have
to be more – whether that be more beautiful, thinner, sexier, wealthier, more
talented, more interesting, more creative, etc. It’s so bloody exhausting! And it stops us dead in our tracks and blocks
us from simply experiencing the flow of love in our lives and to make choices
that feel good and full of ease.
Everyone in the lodge could relate with this harsh energy in
our lives, and praying to not be so darned hard on ourselves. Because ultimately mistakes can simply mean
failed expectations – either yours or another’s – and clashing standards of
reality. For example, I am NOT a clean
freak. And this has gotten me into all sorts of trouble with people who are,
what I would call, control freaks because of their Mr. Clean standards. I could beat myself up and tell myself I have
to improve this part of myself, etc. etc. But the reality is, I don’t care that
much about having everything squeaky clean.
In fact, I prefer the flow of people, art, and fulfilling my life
purpose than I do about scraping the egg off the pan and would just leave it to
soak when it’s easier. So who is
right
and who is wrong? No one. Just different standards.
We came out of the lodge with more self-acceptance and
letting go of this intense energy that has blocked our natural selves and
created a whole other matter of havoc in our inner lives and relationship with
the world. We thanked our ancestors, the
Great Spirit, Mother Earth, our Guides and all beings that supported us for
this sweat which opened up so much more unconditional love in our lives.
So this (Canadian) Thanksgiving, I say” thank you” to you –
the people who have entrusted me with your life journeys of healing and soul
development in all areas of your life and took the risk to try a spiritual
approach to your decisions. And I would
encourage you to put your hand over your heart, hold it there, and say “Thank
you” to yourself for desiring love, kindness, courage and your soul’s greatness
in the world. We need more people like
you who care about living a life that is more caring, purposeful and connected
to your relationships. Please know you deserve treatment that is gentle and
kind, even when it needs to be confrontational about any habits that do not
serve your greater good.
If you are interested in connecting to and gaining the
ancient wisdom of your ancestors, please consider joining me at a Soul
Constellations Gathering. It is a group
ceremonial event rooted in shamanism, psychodrama and energy healing. It is nothing short of profound and allows you
to walk away with greater insight and strength for your life journey. There is a woman’s gathering coming up this
weekend on Friday Oct 17th in Peterborough: http://blossoming-heart.ticketleap.com/soul-constellations-weekend-for-women/
and a Pay-What-You-Feel gathering in Guelph (a mixed
gathering) on Sun Oct 26th: http://blossoming-heart.ticketleap.com/soul-constellations/
Because we can always use more wisdom and heart opening in
our lives….
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