Choosing a New Candy Jar: Healing Emotional Resonance

A recent awareness has been coming into my sessions lately. I'm witnessing that some of our deepest patterns of love and relationships and what keeps us stuck in the “same old, same old” has to do with the emotional resonance we have with our circumstances or dynamics. 

No matter how old or young we are, or how many intentions we make about doing something differently, our hearts and emotions hold memories that remind us of past experiences.

Many of us want to put the past behind us, just wanting to move forward. We’re looking for freedom, ease, positivity, hope, love and a different way of doing things. But somehow we carry the same feelings and reactions into our present time when a situation arises that reminds us of a difficulty or challenging relationships.  Then we behave like we are 10 years old all over again and we shut down or fall into an argument or get a low self-esteem hit.  I know this so well…I’ve been there, done that and continue to have to check myself.

We wonder why we’re back there again.  How has this happened? Why won’t it go away? What do we have to learn?  Why can’t we just let it go?

What I’ve come to learn is that our challenges that keep repeating are simply emotional resonance. We are feeling a trigger or a point where it reminds us of when we felt powerless before because we had big and scary people around us, or we felt hopeless to change our circumstances.  

They say we attract similar circumstances in our life until we learn the lesson.  Often times we have no freakin’ clue what that lesson is and we’re lost in the muck of it.  

In order to re-gain personal power over it, I always encourage clients to check into a time when they had this similar feeling. What happened? What was that feeling? What did they believe about themselves? What is a new decision they can make to respond differently, where it’s more self-honouring and self-respect?

I’ll give you an example. At last night’s Open Your Heart Sharing Circle for Women that I hosted in Guelph, we did a short meditation on one root of our low self-worth.  I journeyed back to a time when I was around 4 years old. My great grandmother favoured my sister over me.  She used to give my sister as many coffee crisp candy bars as she wanted and she’d give me none. She would lock me out of the bedroom and play cards with my sister. In the meditation I realized that I believed that I did something wrong to deserve this.  So whenever someone doesn’t give me something I desire or treat me fairly, I believe that I am being deprived for a reason and I internalize it.  The new decision I made was that I could go to another candy jar – that is, I could go somewhere else to get my needs and desires met. I don’t have to take cruel treatment or believe that I’m an undeserving or unlovable person because of someone else’s choices. This somehow lifted that sobbing, self-pitying inner child in me to a grown woman now who can make a whole new choice and find my sugar somewhere else.   

It doesn’t mean that I don’t attract people or circumstances that are like my great grandmother, who deny me of my rightful pleasures and desires, it’s just that now I can see it from a new perspective and make another choice instead whenever I feel deprived or rejected by another simply for being alive.

It is so easy for us to take a whole host of situations personally – our soul and emotions resonate to that which we know or are familiar with.  This is where energy healing, emotional healing or soul coaching are great ways to find resolution and a whole new way of being so you don’t have to experience or attract the same kind of suffering.

If you would like to explore your options and find ways to resonate with a different emotional pattern, please consider booking a FREE Sharing Our Hearts Session to see if soul coaching is right for you, please visit my site at: www.blossomingheart.ca 

With love,

Heather Embree

Taking a Soul Time-Out

It seems like it is never-ending. We all have to do the dishes, pay bills, take care of our responsibilities and make a living.  More and more it seems like there is never enough time, much less time to connect to our soul and really listen to what it has to say.  

Often we create our plans based on to-do lists, putting structure to our days hoping it will all work out, then we discover we are feeling dissatisfied and disheartened when things don’t go as planned or it somehow seems empty.

To create our lives coming from our soul requires a whole lot of courage and inner strength. It sometimes means going against the grain and not listening to others’ fears or approaches to their lives.  It means we need the time and space to tune out so we can really tune into that inner voice that is trying to get our attention.

This happened recently with me where I thought that one of my goals was inspirational speaking, but when I did a vision board for my coach’s Manifesting Abundance Retreat, I realized that my soul was yearning to have time to go within through yoga, writing and meditation.  I’ve been doing so much outward service that I was not recharging and getting my much needed introvert time.  

And I know I’m not alone with this! It seems to be a social epidemic and it’s creating a whole lot of suffering.

This is why I have created retreats and Blossom Your Soul coaching, because I know that the inner life is getting neglected in a highly demanding world. Through my work, I strive to help each client come to more self-awareness about the challenges they face and the root causes, so they can have the strength and clarity to keep going. 

Without stillness and inner balance, it is much easier to see the world through a stressful experience, rather than a place of paying attention to the signs and ways the world is trying to love and speak to us. It is a more receptive and open state, bringing us information and guidance for making our lives happen in a heart-centred way. It is also where the veil between this world and the other opens and magic happens!

If we can understand that the Spirit World is trying to support us with our soul’s dreams and goals, then we may be more likely to take at least 15 minutes a day to journal, meditate, create or tune into our feelings and our truth.  Every soul path requires this so we can bring more love and wisdom and wellness into the world. 

What is one thing you can do today to tune into your soul?

For more info about my retreats and coaching, please visit: www.blossomingheart.ca

Learning to Trust

Trust is one of those really interesting words. It’s something that many of us have lost sight of because we live in times where people are using each other, there seems to be a high level of conflict and betrayal, and undercurrents of various agendas in the world. I am not sure if it’s possible to get through life without feeling some level of betrayal or deceit from another or in the world. 

When this happens, trust in oneself and others can be severely broken. It can create confusion and make the heart and spirit shut right down, turning oneself into an isolated, cynical and angry or depressed person.  

 

When there has been a long-term break in trust, then it becomes easy to try and control relationships in the future in order to avoid pain. But this just doesn’t and won’t work. 

I’ve been there and I grapple with it regularly as I still have past hurts stemming back to childhood, so I have no judgments when someone is going through this type of experience.  Trust has been one of my lifetime challenges, and even trusting others with my vulnerable truth and self is something I’m still learning how to do.  

I grew up in a home where my parents divorced and for very good reasons.  For a long time, I walked in confusion as to whether I could trust my mother or my father, not knowing who was telling me the truth of what happened, as both parents had caused damage in their own ways. It took me years to unknot this confusing dilemma of who to love or even just trust.  In my moment of suffering and internal turmoil, wondering why my parents couldn’t see or acknowledge me, and why I felt used by them when I knew that I was more worthwhile and meaningful to deserve that treatment,  I heard a loud voice that said “they didn’t create you.”  I was stunned and then dried my eyes and realized that there really must be a greater Creator and that I was not alone. What I did with my life mattered and how much love, kindness, care and respect I put into the world made a difference, even if my parents didn’t value this.  

Once I surrendered and trusted in this guidance, doors opened and I went in directions of spiritual healing, mediumship, healing of my deeper wounds and moving towards more loving and caring relationships.  I could not have done it without surrendering and learning about spiritual and divine guidance, while growing in greater trust and faith.

I’ve seen miracles happen in my life and in others’ lives by trusting and opening up to a greater Power. Of course, it’s more challenging during times of change, or deep betrayal or loss. But it’s in those times that the divine are closest to us. This is why when I work with clients, I always see the reasons and meaning behind their issues and suffering from a higher perspective. What soul lessons are they moving through? What life changes are required so they can become more aware, loving and balanced people? What isn’t being loved and honoured or respected? What emotions are unresolved that are blocking them from trusting in life and love again? 

So, if you feel guided and this message resonates with you and you need some spiritual and energetic clarity and support, please consider booking a Soul Reading or Divine Energy Healing Session so you can re-connect to trusting yourself and a higher benevolent force.  Because you deserve it and it is part of your path towards greater faith and trust in love, care and support….

with honour for who you are,

Heather Embree

Soul Coach, Intuitive Guide and Energy Healing Practitioner

www.blossomingheart.ca

 

Deserving More

So many of us have been trained and conditioned to accept crumbs when it comes to love, life and affection.  Whether it be from growing up in a home that was just about surviving and getting through the day, or worse experiences of abuse, or learning how to be invisible out of fear or shyness, we have been taught to accept crumbs in various areas of our lives – relationships, money, home life, friends, food. And it becomes a pattern of living. 

Even the most “privileged” homes can create this, over-emphasizing one area of attention such as looks and achievement to the detriment of nurturing and affection.  I believe none of us are immune to ways we lower our standards in our lives and ourselves. Now I’m not talking about becoming entitled and superior. I’m talking about deservingness of treatment in the love and attention that we give and receive.  Over time, our hearts shut down from disappointment and we start making a whole host of beliefs of what we shouldn’t ask for or expect.

I will share with you my personal experience with accepting crumbs. There is a family story that says that my dad never gave me attention and gave it all to my sister. And my grandmother would dote on my sister with bags of candy while I would get just one. I was to be grateful for what I got – which is not a bad attitude to take but has led me to always accept second or third best in the way I am treated. 

I would get involved in relationships and stay longer than I should – these people would send messages that said they didn’t want to be with me then turnaround and change their mind. I would stay, finding all the reasons and excuses as to why they are treating me this way. I’d be overly compassionate. 

I also had neglectful parents – parents who never felt responsible to help me reach my potential, and would not offer me any financial support, even though they were able to.  Whenever I was in a position of success, my parents were not there.  This led me into feeling that I didn’t deserve much in the way of love, encouragement, and support in my goals and dreams. There must have been something more I had to be or do in order to receive more love. I didn’t see that I was surrounded by people who had no capacity to love and it was not because I didn’t deserve better or more. They were the ones who never saw me nor felt any responsibility to care for me. So I had to find ways to care for me. And I’m still learning all the time.

I have had to work hard at raising my standards in my life and how I wanted to be treated. I’ve had to have courage to detach and disconnect from family members and “friends” who did not have my best interest at heart, nor have compassion for my needs because most likely they didn’t know their deservingness.  I’ve had to re-align with my values and know that no matter if someone doesn’t see my worth or they don’t treat me well, it doesn’t mean that is what I should accept.  Because I know that the world of our divine heritage is one where we are meant to thrive and come into our own while treating others as divine beings, whether or not they know this about themselves. 

This is why I do what I do – serve women who have struggled with emotional abuse or neglect to help them grow in greater self-love and self-care.  Because I believe that many women, given the nature of our history and the roles we’ve been told to adopt, have been given the short-end of the stick. We have learned unconsciously to accept treatment of being seen as less than, invisible or incapable, as well as expected to be the all-nurturing “Mother Marys” of the world. Many of us have not been conditioned to care for ourselves, because it is seen as selfish, so we’ve made our lives all about others.  But it ends up leading us to burnout and toxic resentment, wondering why people aren’t supporting us the way we support them. We have not set our limit or put our foot down in raising our standards in what we deserve.

So I invite all those women who are wanting to grow in self-respect while feel, release and laugh at their past and struggles to come to my upcoming Open Your Heart Retreat Weekend for Women at Thirteen Moons on July 22-24^th.  We will be doing sacred ceremony and sharing circles, embodying and releasing past emotional patterns that are blocking the flow of love and wellness in our lives, connecting with the healing energies of the Earth, and getting pampered with mini-spa treatments and detoxing food with Louise’s love. There will also be alone time for journaling, resting and reflecting.

I know that many women have a hard time saying “no” and allowing themselves to take time out of their busy schedule, preferring to put money towards friends, family or things that seem more important.  But what if investing in yourself would actually do wonders to have a more satisfying and enriching life, where you can learn how to see clearly and articulate what you want and need, rather than what others are trying to pull from you? Or there are blind spots from your past and family of origin that are making you pick all the wrong people and circumstances that are adding to your suffering? If you are ready to take just 2 days and 2 nights for yourself at this upcoming retreat, which has been named one of the best women’s retreats in the Toronto-area, please contact me at heather@blossomingheart.ca or call 226-500-7321.

Space is limited to 7 people, so if you are interested, it’s best to contact me right away.  For more info about the retreat, please visit:

http://www.blossomingheart.ca/open-your-heart-again-retreat-week-end-for-women.html

If you have any questions, or you’d like to get to know me a bit better, please book a free Sharing Our Hearts session to see if we’re a right fit. 

I really want to have a weekend of relaxing, re-centering and expanding your understanding of what you deserve in love, life and relationships.

Heather Embree is a professionally trained medium, energy healing practitioner and spiritual teacher.  Over the past 6 years, she has helped over 1,000 clients worldwide with her one-on-one sessions and group workshops. Through her own personal healing journey from childhood abandonment and neglect, she has the unique ability to offer support, strength and insight into what is blocking each of us from giving and receiving love and trust. She studied under a self-taught First Nations Healer for 1.5 years, and learned about the teachings of the Sun Bear Medicine Wheel. She also learned how to energetically connect with others for soul healing and has formed an understanding of Spirit's ability to transform lives.  She is a trained Family Constellations facilitator, and has had profound healing experiences with clients, taking them to depths of healing not normally experienced in other sessions.  She has had 5 near death experiences, was raised in a family of clairvoyants and believers in the Other Side, and has had numerous spiritual experiences that have helped her grow into greater and greater confidence of the world beyond physical death.  She loves supporting the women's spiritual path, reclaiming our gifts, truths and sense of personal happiness to create a more loving and equal world.